Archive | July 2020

Climbing … monkey bars or trees?

Jul18

Do you remember climbing trees when you were young?
I Remember sitting in a tree as a child.
An escape, a space away from everyone, a perch where my imagination could run wild
Grounded, connected, at peace. A sense of calm.
A space to be alone. With my thoughts, feelings and observations.

I still enjoy climbing trees. It is good for the soul, and great for my mental health.

Climbing trees VS Monkey bars

Spoiler alert: our best climbers – Monkeys – live and play in trees, not on ‘monkey bars’… there is good reason for that.

Worldwide statistics of playground injuries are far higher than injuries caused by children falling from trees….
Why?
‘Monkey bars’ are uniform in size, shape and distance apart. They are predictable. There is a rhythm that comes with ‘monkey bars’, therefore little thinking is needed, there is little need for concentration. There is no ‘connection’ to steel like there is with nature.

Trees have branches for swinging, just like monkey bars. But theres is so more meaningful learning that comes when climbing a tree. When children climb trees they have to concentrate and they connect authentically, with the tree.
Children develop their muscles, co-ordination, balance, resilience and thinking skills when they are challenged.

Tree cimbing is a sensory activity where children need to feel, balance and grip to the tree. For this reason, we should always encourage children to climb BAREFOOT.
Barefeet help us connect with the earth.
Children will develop connection and learn about the tree as they feel it, find its nooks and explore its natural ledges. They will find what to hold on to to pull themself up, they will learn about the strength of thin branches …. which we want them to learn at a lower height before being ‘put’ in the tree to fall. Children will hold onto and use this knowledge of the tree, and how they got up, on their way back down. Children will hold on to this new knowledge because of the meaningful connection they made in their learning and they will use it next time they get to explore this tree… just watch!

Tree climbing fosters physical learning, develops thinking, problem solving, perseverance, resilience and connection.
Perhaps more significantly, above the physical development and thinking that happens when children climb trees, they get a greater sense of achievement, a sense of pride! They did it ALL BY THEMSELVES. They worked it out, persevered and negotiated their way up the tree. Now they can explore the tree, or just sit, watch, listen and feel…. Before making their way back down, which can be just as challenging as climbing up.

Have you heard the old quote about learning “it’s not about the product, it’s the process”?
This is spot-on for tree climbing.

So what is the adults role here?
Understandably, adults get nervous. Statistics say we need not worry. Weigh up the risks VS the benefits. This will help you find peace with the climb.
1.Encourage your child to climb barefoot.
2.Allow and encourage your child to climb up and down BY THEMSELVES. Do not tell them how or do it for them.
3. Encourage your child to think and feel.

“The greatest help you can give children is the freedom to go about their work in their own way, for in this matter, your child knows better than you.”
-Maria Montessori

The climb UP
If your child cannot get up the tree by themselves it is not fair to lift them up. They will feel unstable, insecure and disconnected from the tree, therefore not know how to get down and thus feel unsafe thd whole time they are up there.
When you put/lift a child into a tree, you rob them of so much learning. They have not learnt how to get up therefore they cannot know how to get down.

If the tree is too big or the branches are too high, find another tree they can climb. If you are nervous/worried as the adult, start small, invite the child to ‘climb this tree’.

Please allow children the opportunity to navigate, problem solve and connect with the tree. Let them do their own risk assesment. They WILL work it out. Give your child the chance to do/learn this themselves. What they will learn in finding their own way up is far more valuable, and, they will hold onto this information far better than if you ‘tell’ them or do it for them.

“Be careful what you teach, ir might interfere with what they are learning.”
– Magda Gerber

My beliefs are the same with all things children learn and do… empowerment guides my practice. I believe children are capable. We need to trust them more, believe in their abilities and understanding and allow them the opportunity to drive their own learning journey.

I believe in ‘freedom of movement’ where we refrain from ‘placing’ a child ANYWHERE they cannot get themselves in and out of, or, to and from.
We often see adults at the playground, ‘lifting a child to the top of the slide’…. If they cannot climb either up the ladder or up the slide, then they shouldn’t be on the slide. (Yes, I believe climbing UP the slide IS ok. If you want to know my ‘why’, I can share)
Clearly the slide is too big and not developmentally appropriate for the stage the child/ren are at. Find a slide they can access themselves, make their learning successful and empower them to do things for themselves.

Say encouraging things like “look for spaces to put your feet” “can you see any branches to hold on to?” ” how does your body feel up there”
If you feel they are going too high, you could say ” look how high up from the ground you are? Do you feel safe up there? How does your body feel?”

WHILE they are up
Tree climbing is a great activity for children to learn about intuition. That feeling inside of us that tells us we do, or don’t feel safe. It is vital we allow children to learn about and feel these feelings when they are young so as teens they can recognize when they are not feeling safe and secure. Tree climbing is a great way to foster healthy risk taking, do own risk assesment and recognize intuitive feelings.

“If you want your children to grow into capable, independent adults,
Give then the space to make their own decisions,
Without controlling their every move.
Let them try.
Let then fail.
It’s not about always getting it right,
Its learning not to be afraid to try.”
– Brooke Hampton

If you are concerned about something, comment without sharing your ‘fear’ … Fear is contagious.
Try encourage presence, thinking and connection …
“How does the wind feel on your body?”
“That branch looks bendy, do you think it is strong enough to hold your weight?”
“Listen to your body”.

Try to avoid using the words ‘be careful’. This makes children immediatately recheck and worry something ‘bad’ is about to happen. It throws them off their balance, belief in themself and their connection with the climb.

Whatever you say, WILL influence their thinking, their sense of balance and their calm, so be mindful of this and think before you speak.

“Raise them with an inch of caution
A mile of freedom and
A bucket full of strength.
Children need our courage, not our fear.”
– Neil Regan

Getting DOWN
Same rules apply. Let them do it themselves.
Give them the gift of believing in and trusting them and their abilities, both physical and mental.
“You got yourself up there, you can get down”
If you need to support them down, keep you hands to yourself and use the same strategies for climbing up. You could add encouraging phrases like “you are nearly there”. “You are working really hard”.
“Feel for places to put your feet”

Once children get a taste for the feeling of being in a tree, the pride and the connection, they will want to do it again, challenge their own ability, solve the problem of how to get up and down.

Children will form connections with certain trees, wanting to revisit the same ones. This is where their connection will deepen and their learning will be authentic, meaningful and unlimited.

“We’ve become strangers to nature. The best way to live longer, healthier lives is to re-wild ourselves by returning to nature whenever we can.”
– Daniel Vitalis

So, your challenge is to go and hug a tree and encourage your child to climb it… (without your help of course).

I invite you to share your stories in the comments below OR share and tag me in your tree climbing photos on Instagram @strengtheningconnections

Much love and happy climbing,
Nickie

Nature: our treasured learning space

Jul11

Nature is a space for learning, connection and grounding. It promotes good mental health, imagination, creativity, curiosity, problem solving and respect. We MUST value nature and the outdoors as a key learning space for our children. It is a place full of magic, wonderment and discovery.

Research shows, children who regularly engage in unstructured play outdoors, have improved emotion regulation, confidence and cognitive functioning.
Richard Louv has researched and documented the negative consequences that can occur when children have a childhood disconnected from nature.
Nature helps us (children and adults) to feel calm, connected and grateful, as we breathe fresh air and ground our feet on the earth.

How do we foster a connection with nature for our children?

First, we must connect with nature ourselves. Embrace nature. Go outside. Stop and notice. Take time to connect.
Be the change you want to see.
Role model respect, connection, curiosity and joy. Its time to change our attitude

As you embrace and model connection, your children, will also connect.

Respect – the earth mother/papatuanuku,
Teach and model respect and love for our land to foster a sustainable future – care for the earth or we have nothing to live for in the future.

Your children will see you respecting Papatuanuku/earth mother and will learn about kindness, connection and sustainability, through your actions.

Collect only from the ground and return treasures to nature when finished with them. Take only for purpose.
Show respect for all living things: trees, insects, birds, butterflies and bees.
Take notice, give respect to the weather. In New Zealand, you can use knowledge and understanding of Maori Atua and talk about Tawhirimatea/God of winds and storms, and do not underestimate the power of nature.

Be curious. Learn to read the signs of nature.
Research the different bird songs and their calls, find out how they tell you of incoming weather. Learn about how the different trees swaying read varied knots of wind.
Be prepared.
Read the signs and be sure to dress and act accordingly.

“No such thing as bad weather, only bad clothing”. – Alfred Wainwright

Let them play
In nature, the learning is fun, its endless and it’s ever changing.

Allow the child to drive the learning.
When children show interest and ask questions, reciprocate the interest in their inquiry.
Let them drive their learning and play the assistant.
When they ask questions, pretend you dont know the answers … encourage research and thinking. “Im not sure… / I wonder why? / How could we find that out?”
Even if you know the answer, dont answer it for them. Ask open questions, promote research and encourage thinking. Give them time and space to think.
Allow them the opportunity of discovery.

Let them get dirty and get a scratch.
Let them climb trees (see Climbing … trees!), scale mountains/dunes, go off track, let them balance along that log or wade through the water.

You are there, you will keep them safe, IF anything was to happen. The key is to only intervene if they fall in to danger..remember:

“If you want your children to grow into capable, independent adults, give them space to make their own decisions without controlling their every move.
Let them try,
Let them fail.
It’s not about them always getting it right,
It is learning not to be afraid to try.”
-Brooke Hampton

When you dont allow your child to take small risks when they are younger, they are less likely to take bigger risks when they are older.

It is better for children to learn about connection, intuition, balance and risk taking now, than on a higher, more dangerous scale when they are older. Allow your child to be free in nature.

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Go barefoot wherever possible

“Shoes insulate humans from the earths healing energy”

Here’s what ‘Dance with me in the Heart’ say about shoes and being barefoot… follow them on Instagram and Facebook for inspirational and educational content.

Barefeet for balance, connection and grounding.

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What does learning look like in Nature
There is learning available to us, everywhere in nature.
The lifeforce in itself is incredible with infinite learning opportunities.

We have to be curious.

Sit and watch the clouds, what do you see? Use your imagination. Tell a story – this is creative expression, language, literacy.

Rummage the forest floor, can you find a stick shaped in the first letter of your name? Draw in the sand/dirt? Early Literacy learning, gross motor skills.

Collect treasures – gumnuts, pinecones, shells, rocks or similar.
Sorting and ordering, representation, counting, size and shape = mathematics

Make ‘nature’s perfume’ (see 5 experiences to foster Connection with Nature). Mixng dirt/sand with water? Watch the tide? Questions or discoveries about the weather?
Eco-literacy and Science, slearnjbg through senses, promotes curiosity and language.

Build a fort, a den, a nature kitchen, or a fairy home? Construction, team work, planning, thinking and language.

Climbing, balancing, running, jumping are great physical activities which foster problem solving, determination, negotiation, perseverance (See Climbing … trees!).

It’s all there. Nature IS the best classroom.

Bring nature inside to continue fostering the connection. Plants, clay, loose parts, etc. For more, read Loose Parts – as Learning Resources

“When your teach a child something you take away forever, their chance of ever discovering it for themselves”
– Jean Piaget

5 ways to foster a Connection with Nature

Jul4

Kia ora and hello,
As you are probably aware, I am a ‘Nature Play’ advocate.
Below are my top 5 experiences to foster a connection with nature. These are suitable for both children and adults.

*If you give any of these a go, I would love to hear your experiences. Please share in the comments section*


1. “Smelly cups” (Sarah Sheenan)
Get a cup, bowl or even a shell.
Go Outside
FIND a stirring/mixing STICK.
CREATE a perfume from nature using what is in your backyard by collecting ingredients from the ground.
STIR, SMELL, MIX, ADD… REPEAT
NAME your perfume
SHARE your perfume with each other.
RETURN it to the earth and make another!

*Smell it, connect with it, name it, share it*


2. Plant a sensory garden
Thyme, lavender, mint, lemongrass, chives, pansies, nasturtium,
So easy… use what you already have/eat
Ask neighbors for cuttings – connect with your community,put a shout out on local pages
For pots – pallets are great, but so are old crockery bowls, ramekins, pots you have laying around,gumboots or even create a new space in a corner of your lawn.
*A sensory garden is a great addition to an outdoor play kitchen* see Create an ‘Outdoor Play Kitchen’


3. Imaginative storytelling in nature
Lay on the grass/sand or other (nature… not concrete), look for pictures in the clouds and take turns to tell imaginative stories about what you see.

4. Awaken the senses
5 things you can see
4 things you can hear
3 things you can feel
2 things you can smell
1 thing you can taste

*You can do this everywhere… your daily walks, on the back lawn, when you explore new places or even as a calming tool for your child if feeling anxious*

5.Play. Uninterrupted play.
Allow your child the time and space to just BE in nature. Watch what they notice. Watch what makes them curious. Notice what interests them.

As the adult, play the silent or minimalist role. Speak only when they seek your input and hold back from giving ‘answers’.

Example
“Mum, look, I found a spider.”
*Move closer, go and look.
“What is it doing mum?”
“I’m not sure son, let’s watch”
But mum, where does it live?
“I’m not sure son. I wonder how we could we find out?”

When we answer for children, we take away their chance of discovering it for themselves. When we do this, children miss out on the whole array of things they will discover and learn along the way of finding out the ‘answer’.
Pretend you dont know the answer.
Allow them the time to think.
Give them the tools for research – look/listen, think, read.

Overarching rule when connecting with nature is GO BAREFOOT.

“Shoes insulate humans from the earths healing energy”.

Of course, having an environment rich in natural resources will authentically foster a connection with nature. Plants inside, collections of natural treasures for play and exploration and a healthy attitude towards being with nature. Its time to change our attitude

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